Zomwe kale zinali njira yomaliza kwa ogulitsa omwe ali ndi vuto zikuchitika nthawi zambiri pamsika wamakono wamakono: ochita nawo mpikisano amawonetsa molakwika luso lazogulitsa zawo kapena, choyipa kwambiri, kunena zabodza pazogulitsa kapena ntchito zanu.

Zoyenera kuchita

Ndiye mumatani pamene mpikisano wanu ukusokoneza choonadi ndipo kasitomala wanu akuwoneka kuti akugwera pa phula?Kuyankha koyipa kwambiri ndikumenya nkhondo ya tit-for-tat.

Mayankho abwino kwambiri ndi awa:

• Mvetserani mosamala makasitomala akakuuzani zambiri zomwe aphunzira kuchokera kwa omwe akupikisana nawo.Pewani kuyankha mwamsanga.Musaganize kuti kasitomala amakhulupirira zonse zomwe mpikisano wanena.Makasitomala ena angakhale akuyang'ana zomwe mukuchita.Ena angakhale akufunafuna mwayi wokambilana.
• Tengani msewu wawukulu.Ngati mpikisano wanu uyenera kupotoza mawu anu ndikuyimilira molakwika luso lanu kuti mutenge chidwi cha kasitomala, ndicho chizindikiro chotsimikizika kuti mukuchita bwino.Mphindi yomwe mukuyamba kunyoza wopikisana naye ndi mphindi yomwe mumayamba kudzigwirizanitsa ndi iwo ndi khalidwe lawo losavomerezeka.Mvetserani mosamalitsa zonena zabodza zilizonse zoperekedwa ndi wopikisana naye, kenako muwayankhe mwatsatanetsatane, mwaukadaulo pamaso pa makasitomala.
• Muziganizira kwambiri zimene mumachita bwino.Khalani okonzeka nthawi zonse kuyankha funso, "Chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kugula kuchokera kwa inu kuposa wina aliyense?"Ngati mungakhale omveka bwino mu yankho lanu, simudzadandaula ndi miseche iliyonse kuchokera kwa ochita mpikisano opanda khalidwe.Makasitomala anu akamvetsetsa mphamvu zanu zapadera ndi kuthekera kwanu, nthawi zambiri sangatengedwe ndi omwe akupikisana nawo.
• Sinthani zokambirana kukhala zomwe kasitomala wakumana nazo ndi inu.Mulimbikitseni kuti ayang'ane mosamala mbiri yomwe mwakhazikitsa kale.Ngati mukulankhula ndi chiyembekezo, auzeni za kupambana kwanu kuyanjana ndi makasitomala ena bwino ndikukhazikitsa mayankho.Yesani kutchula zitsanzo za zopinga zazikulu zimene ziyembekezo zinalephera kulingalira kuti munatha kuzithetsa.
• Osataya mtima, ngakhale mutataya kasitomala.Nthawi zina mumachita zinthu moyenera ndipo kasitomala amapitabe ndi wopikisana naye.Musaganize kuti mwamutaya kwamuyaya, makamaka ngati kasitomala achoka chifukwa wopikisana naye sanali woona.Makasitomala adzazindikira kuti adalakwitsa pakapita nthawi.Musawapangitse kumva kuti akuyenera kubwerera ndi mchira pakati pa miyendo yawo.Pitirizani kulankhulana, ndipo mupangitsa kusintha kukhala kosavuta.

Zothandizira: Zosinthidwa kuchokera pa intaneti